Love It Or Hate It, Timing Really Is Everything

Dating market can be very mysterious because...to say it gently -we're all screwed up royally somehow, sometime, someplace. 

We’re walking around with tons of emotional baggage unpacking it slowly in the front of the others.

I meet so many fantastic souls that are about to get their love dreams dashed and illusions shattered into pieces because not all relationships are destined to have long and prosperous lives. 

Want to know why timing is everything? Read on:

Themes are overlapping throughout the relationships, and I’ve seen that deep down, behind every cultural difference, value, birthplace, and current state, we deal with the same problem.

Timing is everything. 

It is one of the Gods that knows whether or not a relationship has a chance to last. In reality, you either thank, hate or blame the timing. 

It is challenging to build a long lasting relationship if mental places where you and your potential partner stand are far away from each other. Two people coming together have their own inner clock ticking faster or slower determinating what they think, how they feel and what they want the next couple years to look like.

 If one is mentally mature to commit to an everlasting relationship, he/she will behave accordingly. If he isn't, he will act like he isn’t. 

None of them are wrong.  

It’s just that you're heading East while he is leading South. In such instance, it's going to take some time to arrive at the same destination, if ever. 

It doesn't mean that relationship won't be able to form as in life there are always exceptions and second chances. However, we count those along one's fingers.

Maybe you got out of a serious relationship. If so, you aren’t in a state to commit straight away either. You feel bit sore, or even foreign in the land of dating. And that's Okay. 

You need time.

You may go on dates, but even then, you aren’t going to be the most live, energized, and vibrant yourself. 

The guy, on the other hand, perhaps been single for a year and is looking for a serious girlfriend. Timing is mismatched again.

It's logical to feel lost in your mind, heart and often streets after a breakup. 

You may not sign up for a trip to a frozen section picking up your favorite ice cream. Instead, you give up carbs and decide to move on.  

It's no secret, many of us turn to the most convenient medicine of the time - some trending dating app promising an exciting life and keeping our ego high.

As you get out there, they bombard you with questions that sound more like job interviews but with cocktails. Towards the end of the night, one would ask: “ So what is that you’re looking for?”

You keep blinking your eyes, readjusting core, taking another sip of Pinot Grigio while trying to win time to come up with a valid answer. 

“ What am I looking for?” 

You repeat the question and clear your throat. The deeper you look into their eyes, the less you know.

Here you are, with a perfect looking date that seems to put a firing gun straight to your forehead. You don't know what to say. You don't even know how to answer this question to yourself. 

You've got a perfect excuse: You're new to dating slowly dipping toes in fresh waters. 

Deep down you know you aren't ready for anything serious. This is an honest moment revealing the ultimate truth- it’s going to take some time until you're ready to date again. 

Maybe you can relate.

There are seasons in life that aren't about finding yet another relationship. There are seasons where we are given an opportunity to know ourselves better. Getting clear on what is that we want. 

The truth is, any person that could have tried to get close to you in a season that wasn't for love, had no real chance to do so because emotionally you were unavailable. 

And there is so many of us.

I've been on both sides and therefore with no second of doubt know that timing is one of the most crucial things in life. Timing decides whether or not your potential date can have the future. 

I don't believe in saying that you never meet right people at a wrong time. However, I know that if two people are meant to be together, they will meet again at the time when it will feel right. 

As I look at the parade of failed relationships, I realized that we should be honest to ourselves and others expressing our seasons of life and not being scared to be rejected, judged, or misunderstood. 

And as one season will end, there always be the next.

So in closing, I'd like to wish that you too meet someone who isn't plastering you like a band-aid over the fresh wounds but instead is ready to walk with you to the moon and back while holding on to this season of love.

xoxo

Kristina

Revealing Truth Why I choose To Date Foreign

With all due respect to my upbringing, I am bold enough to say that I prefer to eat, date and love foreign.

See, we all are curious to a certain extent. Some more. Some less.

Choosing people you call your friends, boyfriends, and girlfriends are conscious choices in life. They must deserve the title. You may share similar values, interests, and future goals.

But what if, we would choose friends and our dates by slightly different criteria.  

1. Dating a foreigner takes us out of established and limiting roles in our culture.

You can start dating someone fresh without stale cultural expectations, behaviors, or norms. You can experience all of the shades of intense and amazing. 

You get to select what works and what doesn't. Which rules to implement and which to discard. It gives an opportunity to shape the relationship that fits your needs. 

 You don't have to pop up babies at the age of 25 just because it's a cultural expectation. Or you don't have to delay the babies because it's a norm in your country to build a career that others envy. 

If everything goes well, your partner will leave some of their cultural expectations behind while you would be doing the same. Together you'll be able to build a solid ground while creating stimulating traditions that connect both on a much deeper level.

2. Dating a Foreigner showers you with lessons. 

Every dating experience is a classroom filled with tests and quizzed you either pass or fail. Every foreign dating relationship is a classroom teaching all the same except the subjects are taught in a language that isn't your own. It sure may be challenging at times, but so much more rewarding as long as you keep your mind open and heart available. 

Because dating a foreigner will get your palms a little sweaty. 
There will be plenty of awkward moments, misunderstandings, and even arguments. 

Same as there will be plenty of funny seasons, unforgettable times and laughs that will seriously flip-flop your stomach upside down. 

As it turns out, love can be served in a hundred and one variations. You don't have to stick with steamed broccoli and highly nutritious kale if that's not your jam. You can indeed have roasts with garnish. You're allowed to feel spice in the tongue and chills in the stomach if that lights you up. 

It may be a lot of times easier to date and even build a family with someone who was born in the same time zone as you, under the same angle of the moon, ate the same foods, watched the same cartoons and yet...to me this isn't better.

Because...

When two people come together from different backgrounds, they may develop something unique, one of a kind.

What's even better - you get to pick and choose what you want your relationship to become. 

3.  Your identity will change when dating a foreigner.

In the beginning, you may feel like a cat in a jacuzzi, but that's Okay, because dating foreign means stepping out of your comfort zone. 

Anything that involves leaving comfort behind equals to the growth. It trains you to expand your mind. When you expand your mind, it stretches, and it can never go back to where it was. 

When this happens, you become an entirely different person that is free to live whichever way works best. 

There will be most powerful breakthroughs and realizations. You'll get to know you and find out parts of your self you didn't know you ever had.  You'll face unexpected situations, and they all- will make you mature in unexpected ways.

4. You will have a growing appreciation for foreign culture.

You'll acquire contrasting mannerism, behaviors, and expressions.

At times you'll want to open your eyes wide open, at others, you will want to laugh or cry. You'll hear phrases that don't make sense. Then one day, you'll find out that these exact differences are the real reasons why you were attracted to them in the first place!

They may teach you warmth. You may teach stability. They may encourage you and introduce you to things you didn't know existed. 

5. There's no going back.

Actually, you'll try to go back. I couldn't though. 

People that are led by their curiosity on average live more adventurous and colorful life because they accustomed discovering what makes their hearts race faster. 

Every new day is an opportunity to discover something tasty, something special, something that will stir your heart.

People don't date a foreigner because their own kind isn't satisfying; they date a person holding a foreign passport because curiosity guides them to grass-growing destinations demanding to explore their hearts. They are willing to no matter what the difficulties, the risks, or the costs enter the field of the unknown and sip as much as they can out of it feeding their intrigued souls.

On some other planet, in some other lifetime, perhaps I'll stick to what I know. But in this one, I'm taking wild leaps. I choose to pursue whatever fascinates and brings me to life... and that it is the unknown. 

What's more, I have chosen to believe that a desire towards wanderlust was encoded into my DNA for reasons I will never know. 

But one thing I know for sure - your heart is sending you messages in every form it can - through a series of thoughts, sensations, dreams, signs, and attractions begging you to listen. 

The more tuned you become at listening, the more sensational and liberating becomes your existence.✅

With endless love,

XO

Kristina
 

Your Ex Was Meant To Hurt You And Here's Why

One Sunday morning, I decided to chill wearing nothing but PJs. The scene: I'm slowly sipping my low-fat Cappuccino and dreaming of Eggs Benedict with salmon. Ed Sheeran on the speakers. Hangover and makeup-free I'm feeling blessed for whatever there is to be grateful for on a day like this. 

My gratefulness didn't last for long when loudly-buzzing, vibrating sound of my iPhone managed to disturb my vibe. Within seconds I imagine my boyfriend, mother or best friend calling to find out the latest news about my Saturday night. 

What?! Are you kidding me? 

My heart starts to race as I let it ring for some more. I feel massive thunderstorm is about to strike inside of me. I get up, clear my throat, and try to act imaginary calm. 

" Hello," I said.

On the other line was my ex. We haven't talked to each other for at least eight months. Even then, it wasn't the most enticing conversation either. 

He's been drinking…dah! 

 Usually, it's a sober noon for me, and somewhere after midnight for him. Although there's more than just an ocean that separates us now,  I sometimes wondered how he is, but I never bothered to text or call. 

What's the point to shake up the past? 
He must be dating someone. Life is probably good for him. 

And just when you feel at ease and happy with what you have, when your memories of your former relationship start fading at the faster pace- he calls.

How mental is that?

I don't open my ex-file anymore; it wasn't always this way.

When scars were fresh, and everything that happened seemed like yesterday, words were just uninvitedly pouring out of my mouth.  
 I would tell everyone how disturbing, crazy, and in so many ways toxic our relationship was. I would paint the picture of this terribly bad guy to whoever was ready to listen. And me, this never wrong girl.

Oh, that felt good. Liberating and empowering. 

You don't realize how difficult it is to stuff one's life of six years into a suitcase. You can't picture what it means holding a one-way ticket home. You can't imagine how lonely, unprotected and foreign it feels to do it again. And no matter how many times before I have moved, it doesn't get easier. 

Above all, I looked like I had it together. I appeared stronger than I was, and at the same time, I felt so stunningly fragile. I looked like I'm empowered with superpowers to accomplish new beginnings while I quietly retired the " painful " side of my life.

 Since then, I was slowly sewing my ripped wide open heart together again. 

Starting from the scratch takes a lot of courage, willpower and inner strength. Pulling yourself up from the ground when you've been mentally knocked down means internal growth. And so, day by day, one step at the time, I grew stronger.

I didn't hate all male souls out there. I was mature enough to realize that not all men are the same. Not everyone out there is to get you, to play you, to possess you, and then eat your heart with a fine wine. 

You guys, did I hate him that much?

No. He was a great man. Twisted and bruised in his ways. He gave his all.

 I was expecting things he wasn't ready to give. He wasn't ready to let me go. Our personalities clashed. We didn't get each other. We weren't on the same page. Guess we never could figure it out. 

Until one day my patience wore thin. I had enough of my dramas, waiting and hoping our relationship would change. Because there possibly couldn't be a good ending to this. So I packed my bags.

It's been long enough to lick my wounds- three years to be exact. 
And to this day I get nervous when he calls. We instantly pick up right where we left off – being at each other's throats. 

There was no peace when stormy arguments, sleepless nights, and punches to our bruised hearts was our " normal."  We never agreed on what went wrong. He often thought I had a cactus where my heart should be. I thought he was too possessive, demanding, too everything. And the stories...the stories we told to the world were insanely different.

He thought I'd come back one day more mature and ready for the commitment. He hoped I'd become the woman he tried so hard to make out of me. Maybe this is why he's never given me a closure till date. 

This got me thinking; some people will never give you closure. You must grant it to yourself. The past will always be here to mess with the present. Memories, phone calls, random text messages, Instagram likes - these things will still show up. All you can do is to make peace with it, unleash what's holding you back, and let it go. 

We often wonder- what if things played out differently?  If we stayed? If we didn't go separate ways? If we could work out our differences?

I've traveled far from where I've been. 

I no longer want to run around wearing makeup that doesn't survive tears. I no longer want to leave angry in the middle of the foggy night. I no longer want to fight until one of us wins. 

I am happy where I've arrived. And just like that, my break- up turned out to be a breakthrough.

This season is about blissful zen. I synced and clicked with a man I met.  There's no need to lock our horns. No need to leave. No need to prove anything. Just be raw me and be loved anyway.  Little by little I learned to open up my heart again. 

Above all never lose faith that there's that one person that can accept you for who you are. Love you where you are. And just maybe this time around you'll come closer to meeting 'The One.'

5 Reasons Why You Should Forget Your Ex

Time passes. Days, weeks, months. Empires rise and fall, and you still remember him.

I get it- we all have a past. We lived and dated a little. 
We still vividly remember stormy arguments, sleepless nights, and punches to our bruised hearts. We also recall the good times. 

 It's difficult to erase the past, and you shouldn't be trying to. 
On the other hand, if an inner-peace is what you're after, then perhaps you'll pick up a few ideas that will be useful to you.

You should stop talking about your Ex. 

Here is why:

1. There's a reason why things didn't work out. 

Every relationship has it's learning curve. We date people that are emotionally unavailable. We pick partners that have different goals. We meet at a wrong time. We can't work out our differences. We are insecure. They are jealous. We f*** up. 

Actually, it doesn't matter who does. It doesn't even matter who call it quits. The point is, it didn't work out. There's no need to obsess over something that is no longer present. I know it sounds easy to say, but practically speaking - there's a lid for every pot. Look at it in a way as - Your Ex just wasn't the right lid. 

2. Opening ex- file; a true recipe for disaster.

See, women tend to speak more about what concerns them, upsets them or matters to them. If you still think and talk about your Ex, that means that there's part of you not willing to let him go. We all need some time to lick our wounds- and you are allowed to take all the time you need. 

 It's tempting to talk about past when a bottle of wine is involved, and you have someone's pair of ears to listen. You rush to get it off your chest. You believe that you will feel less hurt...eventually.
 You'll finally move on. So you go ahead and drop the bomb on everyone who's there to listen. You speak your heart out- how wrong, sinful or selfish your Ex was.  Oh, that feels good. Liberating and empowering. 

The thing is, you're not in therapy. Excessively talking about your past relationship will not do any good to you, especially if the listener is your date. Even if he will nod his head as he listens, he also makes mental notes on how much your Ex still matter to you.  How you love playing a victim. He will also conclude that you're not ready to invest yourself in a brand new relationship as you're too attached to the old one.  

3. Men are sensitive when it comes to your Exes.

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If a guy is interested- you will not gain extra points by telling him in detail how good or bad your past relationships were. Even if the guy does ask you: " What's the longest relationship you had?"

He is not expecting to get the whole fifteen-minute background story by the time you finish eating your linguine with clams. He didn't ask that question to find out where and when you two met. Or what went wrong, and why you will never in a million years date the guy who treats you this way. 

The less you share, the better off you'll be. No man wants to be compared, analyzed or feel as he needs to compete with your Ex. He also doesn't want to see you overly excited about the times you shared with another man before him. 

Like it or not, deep inside all men are territorial, so save the breath and keep all the spicy details to yourself. If you absolutely need to share- tell your girlfriends!

4. You can't move on.

Have you ever catch yourself stalking his social media feed blanked-eyed zombie style?

Are you wondering- how is he doing without you? If so,  you're just unnecessarily shaking up the past.  Maybe he managed to move on faster than you. Possibly he's already dating someone else. So what? Let the guy be. 

Obsessing over a gone relationship is not only unhealthy is also toxic. The sooner you stop this, the quicker you'll  feel Zen and happy with what you have. Your memories of former relationship will start fading at the faster pace, and you will finally vibrate on a higher level.  That is not only sexy but also very arousing to other men. 

You don't have to hate all male souls out there. You have to be mature enough to realize that not all men are the same. Not everyone out there is to get you, to play with you, to possess you and then eat your heart with a fine wine. 

5. Give yourself a closure.

There's always this moment when we think- how would my life play out differently?  
If I stayed? 
If I wasn't left high and dry? 
If we didn't go separate ways? If we could work this out?

Some people will never give you closure. You must give it to yourself. The past will always be here to mess with the present. Memories, phone calls, random text messages, Insta likes - these things will still show up. No matter how hard you are trying to forget. All you can do is- to make peace with it. Then you drop it like a hot coal and let it go. 

I've traveled far from where I've been. 

I no longer want to run around wearing makeup that doesn't survive my tears. I no longer want to leave angry in the middle of the foggy night. I no longer want to fight until one of us wins. 

I am happy where I've arrived. 

I synced and clicked with someone else.  There's no need to lock our horns. No need to leave. No need to prove anything. Just be raw me and be loved anyway.  Little by little I learned to reopen up my heart again. 

On a final note, I wish you too never lose faith that there is that one person who accepts you as you are. Love you where you are. And just maybe, this time around, this will play out differently because you now know better. And you now in full are ready for love.

xoxo

Kristina

The Unedited Truth About Why You're Failing To Meet 'The One'

They say that in big cities we're always looking for a job, a boyfriend, or an apartment. We stroll around too busy with no time to waste on things we don't agree with, don't believe in or don't want to deal with. 

I was never religiously preaching perfection, but everything I was unintentionally searching for had to feel that way to inner " me."

 I was massively weeding out everything and everybody who didn't live up to my expectations. The ever-changing ideas I pinned to my dream board were frequently replaced by newer and fresher experiences I had. 

What's next? Where's next? Who's next? 

This got me thinking about the way so many of us live.

We screen, we filter. We exclude what doesn't fit into our lives. Be it this sweet neighbor that likes you, or that girl at work that you'll never be friends with. People come, and you let them go.

Because if things don't get delivered in a packaging you ordered, you don't claim it yours. Because if it isn't a flavor, you asked for you say it tastes funny.

Same goes for love.  If love doesn't show up wrapped in all fancy, we fail to recognize it. 

For instance, I know many women that are searching for the perfect guy. They haven't met him in person but they sure saw his profile someplace in the social media.

Sounds familiar?

And then you meet a guy who's funny, friendly and has personality to die for. You can't stop laughing at his jokes. His energy is infectious. Being around him leaves you magnetic. Your heart is overflowing with joy.  Your instinct will even tell you may have found a soulmate without believing that such a thing exists. You feel adventurous, energized. You feel like you are sent to seventh heaven.

Except...he isn't as hot as you would like him to be. He never went to university, and despite working hard on his startup, he hasn't made his first million by the time he met you. 

Hmmm well, that's too bad you think. Your family/friends are not going to be impressed. After all, you were looking for an intellectual match because you worked hard for your great education. You won't be taking too many spontaneous trips to the tropical lands because he's always working. You're clearly not going to move to the penthouse suite with a panoramic view anytime soon. 

Apart from that... you feel the way you always wanted to feel. Being around him lights you on fire. Your entire body is vibrating in a feel-good mode. There's love, passion, and butterflies. Everything you always wanted.

That's the thing about feelings; they nudge you towards what's right and what's wrong. In other words, it's not the goals you're chasing; it's the feelings they will bring you (even if the logistics of your vision aren't matching up. )

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 I used to be so focused on what I wanted that I was blindsided towards how I wanted to feel in the presence of the guy.

You can't plan everything. Life's pretty random. Not everything is meant to work out the way you think you want it. 
Meaning, life may not roll out red carpet under your perfectly pedicured toes. You may not meet someone on the night out when you're all dolled up. In fact, most likely this will happen in the place you least expect ( if you need a visual, you're wearing a hoodie while buying your eggs on a Sunday morning.)

This isn't about settling less for what you damn well deserve. 
This isn't about compromise. If anything, this is about the expanding. Opening yourself to endless possibilities of love, adventure, and fun that's beyond your wildest imagination. Don't think of what you're loosing. Think of what you're gaining. Love. Passion. Butterflies. Future.

xoxo

Kristina

5 Secrets To A Successful First Date

We all have that one friend whose success rate with men quadruples ours.  She's sharp yet sexy. Warm yet distant. And the worse thing- she isn't even trying too hard! Face-to-face conversations, phone calls, texting -  come easy- breezy natural to her. 

What's her secret?

It could be some cosmic energy or her natural talent pulling men towards her. Or she's just fortunate to meet men that happen to be magnetic to her. Either way, she does something many women forget. 

She's been that girl with a racing heart, sweaty hands, and tongue-tied feeling without having an idea what to say next or even how to respond to the simple questions guy asks. She then stepped up her game if she was ever to land a guy she liked. 

If you ever find yourself asking: "Will he call me again?" then one of the following tips could be at hand. 

How do I know?

For the reason that you'll be able to show up as someone sharp yet sexy. Warm yet distant. 

1. You have to be approachable and relatable.

I get it; you already take an excellent care of yourself - frizzy bubble baths, refreshing mint showers, painful wax sessions, expensive perfumes, etc. 

Men are highly visual, and yet, you all dolled up will mean nothing if you two are incompatible to hold an impactful conversation together.

 Because no matter how nicely you wrap yourself up, your efforts will measure up to zero without finding subjects to discuss, share opinions and have fun along the way. 

I hear men continually complaining how boring the girl they went on a date was. I heard expressions like: " beautiful but dull. "

"If I could just hang her on the wall and look at her. "

And then there would be a phrase like this: 

"I didn't feel proud being seen with her. Not to mention-  introduce her to my friends. "
 ( very mean, right?)

I don't mean you have to start watching the news every morning or learn the names of the companies that just went IPO. You don't even need to learn the stock market's fluctuations. You only need to show that you have something to share which will want him to hear and see you more. 

Preferably you've got a sense of humor too, and don't get upset at a joke he makes.  I've seen women that take stuff so personally that instead of laughing or asking for clarification on the joke, they get upset. That is so unnecessary and serves as a significant turnoff to the guy. 

2. Give smiles; they're free.

No one wants to have even a fifteen-minute coffee with a girl that left her smile at home, let alone sit through a three-meal dinner.  World's already too serious. A friendly face can do miracles when it comes to those first dates. 

So let's put on our good mood tiaras and show up all happy and excited about life. This doesn't mean you have to pose and smile non-stop (as if you're so proud of your dentist's work who so spotlessly whitened your teeth. ) This just means you're generous enough to give smiles from time to time, so the guy doesn't mistake you for an emotion-free calculating machine.

3. Have a life.

This is so important, you guys!

Men love to see women that are genuinely in love with their living. You've got talents, interests, hobbies and you're not going to give up your gym membership, girls night out or call in sick so that you could spend more time with the guy. 

If he sees you happy you automatically vibrate on a higher level than those other girls that caught his eye. You energy, aura, whatever you name it- becomes magnetic. This energy makes him want more of you and your time.

 I am not saying you must be perfect. I don't believe in perfect. 
All I am saying is to position yourself in a way that you will be Okay without him too. That you don't need him to make your life exciting. You already have that part figured out. You just want someone to share your fantastic life with! 

Needless to say, men hate the pressure. Any signals of you being clingy, sticky, and bored with yourself will be perceived as red flags.

I hate to say this, but any vibes where you're demanding too much of his attention and time- will be withdrawn from your account. 

I don't mean you need to distract yourself from checking your phone and pretend you too busy so you won't text back the second he does. I'm simply stating that advantage of living in cosmopolitan cities give us an opprtunity to keep ourselves busy nearly 24/7. 
Plus, his heart will pulsate so much faster when you do give him space to miss you. He will then see that you have no interest in taking his life away from him. Instead, he will focus on a value you could potentially add to his. 

4. Men only value things they work for. 

Men love a mental challenge. They love it even more if a woman they're attracted to gives them that trigger.  So don't be shy to challenge him. Even if you hate playing games- just know this one is probably the only game you'll ever need to play if you play your cards right ( just this one time.)

In the early stage of dating, men will always try to push your boundaries and see just how far they can push. Meaning they'll ask for crazy, wild, sometimes even inappropriate things, and see how you respond to their requests. 

They will ask for your '' sexy'' pictures. They'll ask you to join them for a night cup at their place( with an excuse of getting you an Uber home.) And here's the thing - clearly guy wants to have sex with you. However, if by this point you have "hooked" him with your personality, energy or aura, he will not die if you don't send him that picture. He will not give up on you if you don't go home with him first few times, I promise! If he vanishes right after that, that's the red flag to you. Meaning...he wasn't that much into you in a first place. 

This is all to say, more time he is willing to invest in you, the grander chance of him being head over heels for you. Isn't this the goal after all?

5. Be authentic. 

For a sake to be liked in first few dates we often play a bit pretending to be something we are not. ( By the way, men do the same.) It's understandable we want to leave good first impressions, appear cool so to speak. 
I don't think there is a need to fake anything as it will filter through sooner or later. 
 

If you take anything from this post then is this -  be yourself. There's the only one of a kind you on this planet. Don't be afraid to be a bit raw, vulnerable and most importantly- original. 

I may know next to nothing about you, but I am pretty sure that
" the right" man will wholeheartedly fall in love with that something special that only you have.

xoxo

Kristina

Why changing your Life Goals is a Good Idea

In today's world, you are suffocating in choices either you want it or not. You become the magnet for so many possibilities the second you leave your doorstep. 

You see, hear or get to know something inspiring every single day. And if so- why remain the same? Why hold on to the ideas that no longer speak to your soul? Be it a job you should take or a guy you should date. 

It's one of those moments when you stand in the wildly jam-packed intersection- trying not to spill your skinny cappuccino or trip in those strappy shoes, you stop. You check your phone. You've got 15 seconds to be exact, to check all those blinking, buzzing notifications until the red signal turns back to a green again. You start walking again.
 

 And then...there's this bittersweet thought pulling you towards the wannabe land of sparkles, magic and everything dreamy as you scroll down that Insta feed for the third time today. Desire, jealousy or inspiration creeps in. 

Few caffeine sips later you wish you were having tequila, limes and good times. Laying down on a white sanded beach wearing the sexiest bikini you own next to the tanned man of your dreams. 

Do you feel me on that?

You have this idea of the picture-perfect life. However blurred around the edges this picture may be, you wish for a second it could be yours. 

And then you catch yourself thinking - " there has to be something more than this." Because you don't want your life to become a script you no longer want to follow.

You don't have to put a stamp on our life. You just have to be open-minded enough to breathe in the inspiration wherever it may come from and don't be afraid to see where it leads.

And as we do that, we progress, we sync with an ever-changing world and life becomes easier, happier place to live.  That's the goal after all, right?

Snow White moments

Once upon a time, there was a little girl that couldn’t wait to slip into her mom’s high heeled shoes, powder the nose, and paint her nails in the color of the rainbow. She had big hopes and dreams for years ahead. She dreamt of faraway tropical lands, fine-looking life, and a Prince Charming to save her from any trouble she may encounter. 

And then she grew up and got breakouts and blackheads. Suddenly, her whole world seemed turning upside down when her hopes and dreams were still out of reach. 

Is it ever going to happen? Or was it a one of those fake, hard to get, impossible to achieve dreams in the first place? Have we been fooled so hard that now we are scared for life in search of something doesn’t even exist?

It seems we are always looking for that one thing to complete us.  Waiting for someone to change – be it your partner, your boss, your mom, you. Expecting to be happy. Waiting for the right job, the right opportunity, right moment, enough money to do things that our hearts crave the most. 

How long have you been waiting for perfect timing, right career move, right lover, that phone call, that answer, that inspiration, or proper diet just to show up?

Aren’t you exhausted from waiting?

I started to think that what if things we are waiting for will never show up? Would Snow White be still asleep for another 100 years? Or would she have danced out of her prison of sleep, gotten a haircut and moved on to conquer the world? 

I couldn’t help but wonder. How come we are always searching, dreaming, dating, leaving or getting desperate over relationships we have with men, jobs, friends, and life in general.

Are we the new generation of the Sex and the City girls? Just in this time of history, it’s entirely Okay to be wild, experimental, hangover, and always on to the next thing?

xoxo

Kristina