🔥 You Only Love Three Times In A Lifetime🔥

Someone cheats, someone leaves, and someone's sobbing on that bathroom floor ready to sell their soul to have that thing for one more time...the thing called love. 

💔 Not all love stories have happy endings. Some don't have the endings. 💔

And then there are those that bring hope and faith that somewhere out there, someone is patiently waiting for you.

Waiting for you to collect pain and disappointments so that you know what happiness truly means. Most importantly, so you understand - why it never worked out with anyone else.

Furthermore, you can't jump ahead until the end of the book and miss out on all the lessons love's here to give.  You have to live each chapter to the fullest, even if that means going off the track without guarantees and promises of happily ever after.

Because I now know - in love - you never go off the track. 
You only move forward getting closer to the kind of love that is once in a lifetime. The kind that shakes the ground making you unlearn everything you've once learned. 

It forces you to love stronger and go further. 

💘 It teaches you to become a person that isn't afraid of loud sounds, risky decisions, or big love. 💘

Because what matters the most is that at the end of your days, you'll thank love for having blessed you with a passionate existence even if it wasn't always right or healthy. 

There are three greatest loves in our lifetime.

The very first one arrives unannounced inviting you on an unexpected Disney ride. You're ready to jump in without buckling up, without knowing where this ride may lead. 
Then you head off together- you and love and excitement - side by side, heading into stimulating waters of unknown outcome. 

💘 It feels heavenly while it lasts to do the forbidden things: to make goals, to give promises and vows you'll never keep.  And yet, you want to hold on to it forever.  💘

Some first loves live for months, some for years, some few decades.  

They mark how far you've come and how far you still have to go. You then realize that you can't go back in time, but maybe you can go forward. 

💥 Then comes the second, the hardest of all. It's here to serve the purpose you do not know. It soaks you all in.  It consumes your mind, life, and heart.   You know in your head that this is bad news, and you should probably walk away forever, but the unknown powers always lure you back. 💥

 It's here to make you feel the highs and the lows of life.  It gives you a glimpse of who you can be and who you no longer want to be. 
 
 💔 It's here to squeeze all you've got until one day you've got nothing. Until you no longer can go on, and everything that you so religiously hanged on to, you now are ready to let go,  walking out with nothing but a suitcase. Leaving all behind without knowing what's next. 💔

You'll feel sorry for yourself and the time that so unapologetically went by. You hope on time's healing powers to forgive and forget the love you've consciously signed up for despite the warnings of your soul, your friends, and family. 

Months later, the dots will connect. And although you'll still be walking through molded waters, you'll finally start seeing clear waters on the horizons.  

In life, we don't always get what we deserve. But we almost always get what we need.

And so comes the third, the greatest of all. 
It will feel scary and exciting altogether, yet natural and unforced. Everything just organically falling into its place. 

💥 Although there'll be icebergs and obstacles on their way suggesting you listen to your vulnerable Ego, pride, or conscious mind, you won't let it go so smoothly.  Over time, you may go separate ways for a while, but in the end, there'll be an unexplainable force pulling you back into each other's arms over and over again. 💥

Long-lasting love is here to show who you are. It's here to reveal what matters. It'll ask you out of your comfort zone. It'll push you against the walls of your true potential, you've never touched. Lastly,  it'll give you a chance to grow up.  

And although there were certain questions and unresolved issues, I shudder at what I almost lost if I had walked away because of that. 

Had I been more prideful and fearful, somewhere in the world today (probably in a tiny cramped room of a London apartment ) there would still be a single woman wandering the streets of a city in hopes to find love. 

So I urge you to forget your small thoughts. Forget the logic. Trust the feeling which is guiding you someplace magical through the signals of love. And maybe this time around, you won't get a fantastic Disney roller coaster, but you most certainly will wake up to a Disney sunset. And that, my friends, is Big Love. 💓💓💓

Love It Or Hate It, Timing Really Is Everything

Dating market can be very mysterious because...to say it gently -we're all screwed up royally somehow, sometime, someplace. 

We’re walking around with tons of emotional baggage unpacking it slowly in the front of the others.

I meet so many fantastic souls that are about to get their love dreams dashed and illusions shattered into pieces because not all relationships are destined to have long and prosperous lives. 

Want to know why timing is everything? Read on:

Themes are overlapping throughout the relationships, and I’ve seen that deep down, behind every cultural difference, value, birthplace, and current state, we deal with the same problem.

Timing is everything. 

It is one of the Gods that knows whether or not a relationship has a chance to last. In reality, you either thank, hate or blame the timing. 

It is challenging to build a long lasting relationship if mental places where you and your potential partner stand are far away from each other. Two people coming together have their own inner clock ticking faster or slower determinating what they think, how they feel and what they want the next couple years to look like.

 If one is mentally mature to commit to an everlasting relationship, he/she will behave accordingly. If he isn't, he will act like he isn’t. 

None of them are wrong.  

It’s just that you're heading East while he is leading South. In such instance, it's going to take some time to arrive at the same destination, if ever. 

It doesn't mean that relationship won't be able to form as in life there are always exceptions and second chances. However, we count those along one's fingers.

Maybe you got out of a serious relationship. If so, you aren’t in a state to commit straight away either. You feel bit sore, or even foreign in the land of dating. And that's Okay. 

You need time.

You may go on dates, but even then, you aren’t going to be the most live, energized, and vibrant yourself. 

The guy, on the other hand, perhaps been single for a year and is looking for a serious girlfriend. Timing is mismatched again.

It's logical to feel lost in your mind, heart and often streets after a breakup. 

You may not sign up for a trip to a frozen section picking up your favorite ice cream. Instead, you give up carbs and decide to move on.  

It's no secret, many of us turn to the most convenient medicine of the time - some trending dating app promising an exciting life and keeping our ego high.

As you get out there, they bombard you with questions that sound more like job interviews but with cocktails. Towards the end of the night, one would ask: “ So what is that you’re looking for?”

You keep blinking your eyes, readjusting core, taking another sip of Pinot Grigio while trying to win time to come up with a valid answer. 

“ What am I looking for?” 

You repeat the question and clear your throat. The deeper you look into their eyes, the less you know.

Here you are, with a perfect looking date that seems to put a firing gun straight to your forehead. You don't know what to say. You don't even know how to answer this question to yourself. 

You've got a perfect excuse: You're new to dating slowly dipping toes in fresh waters. 

Deep down you know you aren't ready for anything serious. This is an honest moment revealing the ultimate truth- it’s going to take some time until you're ready to date again. 

Maybe you can relate.

There are seasons in life that aren't about finding yet another relationship. There are seasons where we are given an opportunity to know ourselves better. Getting clear on what is that we want. 

The truth is, any person that could have tried to get close to you in a season that wasn't for love, had no real chance to do so because emotionally you were unavailable. 

And there is so many of us.

I've been on both sides and therefore with no second of doubt know that timing is one of the most crucial things in life. Timing decides whether or not your potential date can have the future. 

I don't believe in saying that you never meet right people at a wrong time. However, I know that if two people are meant to be together, they will meet again at the time when it will feel right. 

As I look at the parade of failed relationships, I realized that we should be honest to ourselves and others expressing our seasons of life and not being scared to be rejected, judged, or misunderstood. 

And as one season will end, there always be the next.

So in closing, I'd like to wish that you too meet someone who isn't plastering you like a band-aid over the fresh wounds but instead is ready to walk with you to the moon and back while holding on to this season of love.

xoxo

Kristina