Laughing Is Hot And Healthy

Forget the fancy skincare promising you a golden glow. The real glow comes from one place only, and that's from within. 

Real glow can't be sold in a package of foundation or fancy powder I was thinking of getting for Christmas. 

We glow when we feel happy, satisfied with moments of life, and ourselves at large.

💖 True glow has energy like no other. It's real. 

It isn't always possible to feel happy at all times, but we can indeed feel better within seconds by simply changing our state. All we need to do is to stop whatever we're doing and do this instead: 

LAUGH out loud. Not like a crazy person but like a real person who finds things funny. Not for a second but for a real good minute. 

Laughing makes you GLOW because your body gets charged with feel-good hormones.

Also, did you know that ✅ The average 4-year-old laughs 300 times a day? The average 40-year-old? Only four. 

Shocking! 

Here's why we should laugh intensely, wildly, vividly more. 

🤣Laughing helps us to let go. Let go of physical tension, stress, fear, and depression. Laughter boosts the immune system and decreases stress hormones, which then helps to fight infection antibodies. 

😏 It just so happens that we lose the ability to laugh around 23 when we enter the workforce. Because we have yet to prove how professional, important we are, and from that point onwards, life's seriousness overtakes us. 

💖 A good, hearty laugh has so many benefits, which is why I felt called to remind myself that laughing from the heart is healthy and free. And more than ever, we shall look for more reasons to smile because it feels GOOD. 

🌸 Perhaps there isn't much to laugh about in this current state, but if we do make a conscious effort to lift our spirits and bursting with the exciting, contagious laugh, we may as well make a space for different energy to enter into our rooms. We may as well feel healthier, better, which is the point after all. 

💫 What would it feel like if we laughed like 5-year-olds today, and tomorrow, and the next? What would we all feel like? What would the world be like if laughter became, once again, our natural state?

7 Things I Want To Tell To Younger Self

I was her. Lost, unsupported, live for the moment kind of girl. I am no longer this girl, but Here are 7 things I want to tell her. ✅🧨

1.    Damn, girl! You're so cute! Stop wishing you were thin and a model. ⁠ 

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2. One day you'll figure out what you want to do with your life. It'll involve sharing the painful lessons you are currently learning. You will be writing, and it will be in English. You’ll put all of this into a book one day.

3. Choose to study first thing your heart tells you because you will get to make money from it one day. It’ll happen through doing things you love. Don’t worry about the “ how’s” for now. Just know your life, career will be awesome. ⁠

4. Don’t waste yourself on people, places and situations that aren’t aligned with who you are and where you want to be. And if you do, make sure you say bye to these things today. Then go out and treat yourself to the best personal growth investment you can find in the market, and wine. For once, you’re allowed to finish the whole damn bottle. Alone!

5. Every cent you make, invest it Facebook and Whatsupp shares. Even better, don’t waste money on bread, invest it in shares. Don’t worry about it, just trust me. ✅

6. Kid, never ever, even in your dreams, go to bed wearing mascara! Rip that off even if you can barely stand. The future will thank you.

7. Stop obsessing about finding the love of your life. It will find you. And don’t be scared of babies, they’re cute. ️

🧨( IMPORTANT) When A Student Is Ready, Teacher Appears. Don't ask what this means. You'll get this when it's time.) ⁠Until then, there’s SOULGIRL, this book that I wrote. For souls that don’t know where they’re going but are in the rush to get somewhere. It’s kind of a bible for every girl that I know. 

Search on Amazon. Soulgirl by Kristina Razinska.

End Hate. Learn Patience And Faith.

Thanks to the technological evolution of the instant gratification our generation is more depressed than ever. Because the world where we live in is under constant pressure to be and do more.

Is this idea - that the things we crave for have to manifest in our lives immediately - is what destroys our self-esteem and confidence in the long run.

🦋 We no longer understand the concept of patience and faith. We get obsessed with speeding things up, looking for shortcuts to save time and money. 🦋

As a result, we become more desperate than ever. We start questioning ourselves even more, therefore, killing any chances of achieving our goals. All because we attach our self-worth to external rewards or their lack of.

And just when things can't get any worse, one morning you scroll down your feed discovering that somebody else has gotten that promotion you wanted, has started your gluten-free cookie business, has written that self -help book, or launched your dream product/service online.

They are proudly collecting victories in their professional and personal lives flashing it all over their social media channels making you feel lower than ever.

And although we wish them well, if they are our friends, somehow it gets more difficult to swallow yet another declaration of someone's success. Because it's easier to compare. Because it feels better to judge. Because it feels liberating to gossip. And by doing so, we get in the mood to ruin our lives, literally. Furthermore, we're poisoning our mind completely eliminating what’s even possible for us at this stage.

" Somebody else got mine."

" There's never be enough of anything to go around."

Because somewhere along the way you've convinced yourself that you've been robbed when you haven't, in fact, been robbed.

🦋 You forget that the success of others is an example of what's possible. If someone else can do it, you can do it too. You can cherish others for their achievements acknowledging the fact that there is plenty of room for everyone including you. 🦋

You can choose to believe that you are neither a slave to the evolution of social media nor its master. Be its partner.

💓 When you shift these thoughts to the partnership instead, when you're ready to work with the idea of what's possible for you, you experience immediate relief. Life as you know it will start to unfold in unexpected ways. 💓

Because underneath it all, the truth is that - your life and your path are one of a kind. It's not a race, it's a journey that cannot be compared to others. Because we are on different timelines. The timeline to our own victories can't be measured by a certain age, amount of time, religion, or education.

Your and my journeys are never meant to be the same. It doesn't mean there will be less left for you if I'll get there first. We can't arrive there together because it's not in our powers to control the circumstances, law of nature, the Universe, or the gods.

We've got to be learning patience and faith boldly trusting our journey that no matter what, we'll get there whenever the time is right. Because everything happening around you is happening for you. Even if you don't understand it yet.

💓 Therefore don't pressure yourself to tick yet another goal off your checklist thinking that everything needs to happen right now this moment. Don't rage at the gods above. Don't put the hate on destiny. Don't overthink that there is something wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you. 💓

Everything needs to happen at its own speed. It's a rocky road of thousand steps each closer to the ultimate place you want to reach.

Work with all your heart. Show up for your work day after day with stubbornness and trust, and I promise that one day you'll wake up feeling more accomplished, completed, and whole. One day you'll proudly share your idea, your invention with the world too. Or you'll choose not to because approval of others will no longer matter.

What matters the most, there'll be no more internal demons to fight, no more painful detours to make and the whole future will look a whole lot better.

🌹 But it starts now with letting go off the idea of having it all this instant. Do your part and Universe will do its part. Because everything happening around you is happening for you. 🌹

With love and faith,

Kristina

5 True-Hearted Signs You Finally A Grown Up

You will get hurt. Shattered- guaranteed. 

For starters, I thought growing up sucks. 

Because you crawl through the world like a newly born kitten with your eyes half closed lacking clarity, direction or often common sense, all while pretending you've got stuff figured out. 

There are times you'll walk through the darkest alleys. But there's almost always a light on the other side. Because even the darkest hour of your life will only last an hour.

 As a standard life in our twenties feels as though we have problems that we are incapable of ever solving. Doors will not always open. Roadmaps will not be given. 

And for the most of us out there, it takes twists and turns and often detours to arrive someplace meaningful. 

But no matter how hard battles you have to fight, you always get through. Universal truth. 

You'll travel far from where you've been, and you'll feel this in your bones... the feeling of arrival. 
 
The idea of next, next, next - always next will longer seem relevant. 

Because...

Time has this magical ability to turn things around and show you what's up. Things will start falling into place and here's how:

1. You become a grown up when You start choosing yourself.

Is when you no longer allow others to make choices for you or instead of you. You take on full responsibility for everything related to you - your love life, work life, finances, career, well being, health, intentions, and goals. 

You acknowledge your value.

You no longer clap like the happiest seal at the zoo when someone throws you a bone. 

No thanks. 
You demand a whole juicy steak. (And it better come with a side and a heart-attack introducing dessert.)

You learn to turn down things that drain your energy, please others and put your dreams on hold. Because destiny is not matter of luck; it's a matter of choice. Anything and anybody that delays you from your dreams has to go. 

Choosing yourself is a difficult one, but I promise, is one of the most top-level choices you'll ever make.

2. You are enough all by yourself when you become a grown up.

 You worked on yourself. Healed your own heart. Discovered who you are alone and what your goals are. 

 Riding solo may seem lonely at first, but how on Earth are you planning to arrive anywhere without being able to ride on your own?

3. You stopped apologizing for your past as A Grown Up.

You dropped guilt about everything and everybody that you wronged in the past. Or how you should have done things 360 degrees different. 

Only when you become capable of unlearning what you knew from the past, you become free of it. The story of who you are and who you aren't. What you can or cannot do. 
 

4. Opinions of others no longer bother you. 

You don't have to blaze through the wall and prove your points as long as everyone gets it.

 Everyone is entitled to have their own beliefs and therefore their own opinions. Be it your colleague at work, your boss or your own family. We may relate to some and completely disagree with others. 

And that's Okay.

Organically you'll start to feel at peace with yourself and those around you. You'll no longer be trying to recast the molecules of others. You'll learn to accept the differences despite the fact that you won't always be on the same page. 

 We can all still come from different places possessing contrasting beliefs, and live happily ever after under one roof without going to wars with each other. 

5. When you have defined your values and priorities.

You know what is important to you and you know why. You no longer find it difficult to make a list of things that are most important to you. 

 As time goes by, your values change. The descending order change. Maybe freedom is replaced by love. Maybe an adventure is replaced by safety. Perhaps some priorities have lost the crown to be nominated to your list.

 And that's all right. 

As we grow, we evolve, and I believe, no human being should ever remain the same. I don't want ever to think I have arrived because this would mean I would stop growing. And as long as I live, I will always be evolving. 

The truth is – you will only feel grown up when you’ve dipped your toes and the entire body in everything you once wanted, and you have made tons of mistakes that made you a better person today.

Until then you should try yourself in every possible aspect of life. Do whatever causes a revolution in your heart. Live unapologetically. Follow your curiosity. Trust your heart. Be a geyser of energy. 

And as you do that, have faith in the world. It always has your back, even in the moments when nothing makes sense. Always remember: there's always light on the other end. We all get there...sooner or later. 

Until then, happy learning!

Your Ex Was Meant To Hurt You And Here's Why

One Sunday morning, I decided to chill wearing nothing but PJs. The scene: I'm slowly sipping my low-fat Cappuccino and dreaming of Eggs Benedict with salmon. Ed Sheeran on the speakers. Hangover and makeup-free I'm feeling blessed for whatever there is to be grateful for on a day like this. 

My gratefulness didn't last for long when loudly-buzzing, vibrating sound of my iPhone managed to disturb my vibe. Within seconds I imagine my boyfriend, mother or best friend calling to find out the latest news about my Saturday night. 

What?! Are you kidding me? 

My heart starts to race as I let it ring for some more. I feel massive thunderstorm is about to strike inside of me. I get up, clear my throat, and try to act imaginary calm. 

" Hello," I said.

On the other line was my ex. We haven't talked to each other for at least eight months. Even then, it wasn't the most enticing conversation either. 

He's been drinking…dah! 

 Usually, it's a sober noon for me, and somewhere after midnight for him. Although there's more than just an ocean that separates us now,  I sometimes wondered how he is, but I never bothered to text or call. 

What's the point to shake up the past? 
He must be dating someone. Life is probably good for him. 

And just when you feel at ease and happy with what you have, when your memories of your former relationship start fading at the faster pace- he calls.

How mental is that?

I don't open my ex-file anymore; it wasn't always this way.

When scars were fresh, and everything that happened seemed like yesterday, words were just uninvitedly pouring out of my mouth.  
 I would tell everyone how disturbing, crazy, and in so many ways toxic our relationship was. I would paint the picture of this terribly bad guy to whoever was ready to listen. And me, this never wrong girl.

Oh, that felt good. Liberating and empowering. 

You don't realize how difficult it is to stuff one's life of six years into a suitcase. You can't picture what it means holding a one-way ticket home. You can't imagine how lonely, unprotected and foreign it feels to do it again. And no matter how many times before I have moved, it doesn't get easier. 

Above all, I looked like I had it together. I appeared stronger than I was, and at the same time, I felt so stunningly fragile. I looked like I'm empowered with superpowers to accomplish new beginnings while I quietly retired the " painful " side of my life.

 Since then, I was slowly sewing my ripped wide open heart together again. 

Starting from the scratch takes a lot of courage, willpower and inner strength. Pulling yourself up from the ground when you've been mentally knocked down means internal growth. And so, day by day, one step at the time, I grew stronger.

I didn't hate all male souls out there. I was mature enough to realize that not all men are the same. Not everyone out there is to get you, to play you, to possess you, and then eat your heart with a fine wine. 

You guys, did I hate him that much?

No. He was a great man. Twisted and bruised in his ways. He gave his all.

 I was expecting things he wasn't ready to give. He wasn't ready to let me go. Our personalities clashed. We didn't get each other. We weren't on the same page. Guess we never could figure it out. 

Until one day my patience wore thin. I had enough of my dramas, waiting and hoping our relationship would change. Because there possibly couldn't be a good ending to this. So I packed my bags.

It's been long enough to lick my wounds- three years to be exact. 
And to this day I get nervous when he calls. We instantly pick up right where we left off – being at each other's throats. 

There was no peace when stormy arguments, sleepless nights, and punches to our bruised hearts was our " normal."  We never agreed on what went wrong. He often thought I had a cactus where my heart should be. I thought he was too possessive, demanding, too everything. And the stories...the stories we told to the world were insanely different.

He thought I'd come back one day more mature and ready for the commitment. He hoped I'd become the woman he tried so hard to make out of me. Maybe this is why he's never given me a closure till date. 

This got me thinking; some people will never give you closure. You must grant it to yourself. The past will always be here to mess with the present. Memories, phone calls, random text messages, Instagram likes - these things will still show up. All you can do is to make peace with it, unleash what's holding you back, and let it go. 

We often wonder- what if things played out differently?  If we stayed? If we didn't go separate ways? If we could work out our differences?

I've traveled far from where I've been. 

I no longer want to run around wearing makeup that doesn't survive tears. I no longer want to leave angry in the middle of the foggy night. I no longer want to fight until one of us wins. 

I am happy where I've arrived. And just like that, my break- up turned out to be a breakthrough.

This season is about blissful zen. I synced and clicked with a man I met.  There's no need to lock our horns. No need to leave. No need to prove anything. Just be raw me and be loved anyway.  Little by little I learned to open up my heart again. 

Above all never lose faith that there's that one person that can accept you for who you are. Love you where you are. And just maybe this time around you'll come closer to meeting 'The One.'

F*** Goals. Set Intentions

In an age in which most people seem to measure their own worth by how overworked they are - there's little or no time to talk about the feelings. Sadly, this is why we feel as we could have been, done and achieved so much more by the end of yet another New Years Eve.

The New Year tends to fill our wild hearts with ambitions, new ideas and promises we rarely keep to our own selves six months down the line.

What makes you think that this or next year will be any different? 

Are we that bad, lazy or not trustworthy? 

Or is it that our personal plans simply suck? 

 There is nothing wrong with our goals. It's the way we set those goals is what causes stress, disappointment, or feeling like a failure when we don't achieve things we swore we would.

To me focusing on concrete goals I aim to achieve feels so pushed, forced and pressured in a way. My brain literally feels like a scrambled eggs just by thinking about all of this!

Make more money by so and so month. Get that promotion. Lose that weight. Tick those travels off my bucket list. Meet the love of my life. 

 I knew there must be another way to go about this. 

Good news is - there is!

A post shared by KRISTINA RAZINSKA✨ (@kristina_razinska) on Dec 24, 2017 at 8:03am PST

What if this year you stopped focussing on internal goals (to-do lists, bucket lists, mathematical plans?) All of which happens outside yourself anyway. 

 Because have you ever experienced anything outside of yourself? (worry, stress, pain, and pleasure?)

I personally know of no such person. Because everything you'll ever experience happens inside of you.

So how would you like to feel? 

 In other words, how would you want to experience everything on the inside? 

More freedom! 
Love. Passion. 
Feeling fresh, rich, sexy, creative, appreciated. 

As I started to shift focus on how I wanted to feel, magic happened.  I felt a massive weight was lifted off my shoulders. 

When instead of focusing on unexciting goals that felt like chores, I started to think how much more energized, happy, alive, loved I wanted to feel- I started to find refreshing ways to feel just that.
 Is that simple!

In a nutshell, when you get clear on how you want to feel you will have a new way to make things rolling in your life. 

Here is why:

By doing so, the whole Universe starts expanding. You will intentionally seek how to create those feelings for yourself. You might surprise yourself with some new choices. Starting from what gets to be put on your body, what goes inside your body, the people you hang out with, the gifts you give and receive, the thoughts you allow to stay in your mind. 

When you know what feelings you're after, you may see yourself going after different things, and you may be going after them in a way you haven't done before. How do you want to feel when you leave your bed each morning? How would you like to feel when you look at your calendar for the week/month? When you wear your outfit for the day? When you walk in your workplace? When your phone rings? When you get paid? When you finish that project you've been working on? When you complete that thing, make that money, or fall in love?

With that in mind, if you stay truthfully loyal to your feelings, you'll never be lost again. You'll be able to pull off that dusty curtain and clearly see how to live boldly.  You'll start making more empowered choices. You'll not end up in the places, relationships or situations that don't bring you feelings your heart desires the most. 

Trust your heart. It knows what'sup. Just as it knows which pair to pick when you are shopping for shoes, same goes which way to go, what answer to give. 

Live passionately and never lose sight of how you want to feel. Heading towards your feel-good feelings will revolutionize the way you experience life.

Best of luck, 
Kristina

xoxo