“ Only dead fish goes with a flow.”

So another day, I heard this saying: “ Only dead fish goes with a flow.” 

And wow, what a reaction it struck in me. ⚡️

Many will tell you that going with a flow is a good thing but here is why it's not. 

Going with the flow means living life unconsciously on autopilot without interfering with a thing. 

It means I am not consciously creating what I want. ❌

I am not trying to change a thing, but I am silently hoping that something will change. ❌

It means I am accepting whatever comes my way... Perhaps I don't even pay attention. ❌

And here’s a scary thing... 

Living on autopilot sooner or later makes one feel lost or stuck because, like that dead fish, she risks ending up nowhere.

Certainly not in the place she chose. 🚀

While sometimes it's hard to see where to begin... Know this - we rarely create lives we want by accident. 

So if you desire something greater, something better, something else than what you’re currently living... 👇

Start small. 

Notice what needs change. Be honest about it. Often, it's a mindset thing and that can be indeed improved.🤩

There are plenty self- help tools available and I am here if you need to talk.♥️

No matter what you decide, know that when creating a conscious life, we intentionally create and design the life we want. 

We reflect and select. We decide on things. We achieve goals. We thrive. 

We are happy because we actively choose to create lives we love- energetically, spiritually, materialistically, aesthetically, and wholeheartedly. 

I wish you never settle until you live your dream and are conscious that every present moment is your opportunity to be a new beginning. 🎉

With love,

Kristina

Why You Should be Mothering Yourself

You deserve all the love in the world, darling. 

You deserve to be seen, heard, understood, and deeply cared for at all times. 

You deserve to be held tightly on those dark, lonely nights. 

You deserve all the love and some more combined in this world. 

And you get to have it all, if only you nurture and mother yourself, darling. 

Because the truth is: You will chase this feeling of love, and even when seemingly found, something won't feel right. 

Simply because if you cant nurture and mother yourself, you will never feel fully loved. Completely understood. Wholly enough. Entirely deserving of love. 

And that's the saddest part of it all... because you deserve all this love and some more. 

Mother-daughter relationships need some healing for many of us- whether you had the world's best or worst mother. Because let's be honest for a second - she wasn't a hero, nor a superhuman. She was only a human with her own pains and wounds to heal. Not perfect or loved enough by those who came before her. 

Until she had you... until you chose to come here to learn and to grow. Out of all the mothers you could have had, you chose her. With all her flaws and imperfections, this woman birthed you to this world and gave you life. 

Even if she did her very best, she couldn't possibly give you all that you needed, most likely because she longed for the very same things, maybe even more. 

But you do get to choose. Choose to meet your own needs and to give yourself all that you craved. Give yourself love, care, attention, and quality time. 

You can choose to love yourself and her because she did her best when she could have given her worst. 

She taught you lessons directly or indirectly- something that will always be a part of you. 

Ask yourself, what did she teach you? 

What did you crave the most as a child? Think of ways you can give it to yourself today and for as long as you live.

If your mother was a child, what would you teach her? How would you love her?

Care for yourself deeply, darling, because no one else can give you what you need the most.

Sing to yourself. Care for yourself. Adore yourself. Shower yourself in softness, compassion, devotion, and attention you always wanted.

And while you are at it, send some love to your mother. Chances are, if you need this deeply, she probably does too...

End Hate. Learn Patience And Faith.

Thanks to the technological evolution of the instant gratification our generation is more depressed than ever. Because the world where we live in is under constant pressure to be and do more.

Is this idea - that the things we crave for have to manifest in our lives immediately - is what destroys our self-esteem and confidence in the long run.

🦋 We no longer understand the concept of patience and faith. We get obsessed with speeding things up, looking for shortcuts to save time and money. 🦋

As a result, we become more desperate than ever. We start questioning ourselves even more, therefore, killing any chances of achieving our goals. All because we attach our self-worth to external rewards or their lack of.

And just when things can't get any worse, one morning you scroll down your feed discovering that somebody else has gotten that promotion you wanted, has started your gluten-free cookie business, has written that self -help book, or launched your dream product/service online.

They are proudly collecting victories in their professional and personal lives flashing it all over their social media channels making you feel lower than ever.

And although we wish them well, if they are our friends, somehow it gets more difficult to swallow yet another declaration of someone's success. Because it's easier to compare. Because it feels better to judge. Because it feels liberating to gossip. And by doing so, we get in the mood to ruin our lives, literally. Furthermore, we're poisoning our mind completely eliminating what’s even possible for us at this stage.

" Somebody else got mine."

" There's never be enough of anything to go around."

Because somewhere along the way you've convinced yourself that you've been robbed when you haven't, in fact, been robbed.

🦋 You forget that the success of others is an example of what's possible. If someone else can do it, you can do it too. You can cherish others for their achievements acknowledging the fact that there is plenty of room for everyone including you. 🦋

You can choose to believe that you are neither a slave to the evolution of social media nor its master. Be its partner.

💓 When you shift these thoughts to the partnership instead, when you're ready to work with the idea of what's possible for you, you experience immediate relief. Life as you know it will start to unfold in unexpected ways. 💓

Because underneath it all, the truth is that - your life and your path are one of a kind. It's not a race, it's a journey that cannot be compared to others. Because we are on different timelines. The timeline to our own victories can't be measured by a certain age, amount of time, religion, or education.

Your and my journeys are never meant to be the same. It doesn't mean there will be less left for you if I'll get there first. We can't arrive there together because it's not in our powers to control the circumstances, law of nature, the Universe, or the gods.

We've got to be learning patience and faith boldly trusting our journey that no matter what, we'll get there whenever the time is right. Because everything happening around you is happening for you. Even if you don't understand it yet.

💓 Therefore don't pressure yourself to tick yet another goal off your checklist thinking that everything needs to happen right now this moment. Don't rage at the gods above. Don't put the hate on destiny. Don't overthink that there is something wrong with you because there is nothing wrong with you. 💓

Everything needs to happen at its own speed. It's a rocky road of thousand steps each closer to the ultimate place you want to reach.

Work with all your heart. Show up for your work day after day with stubbornness and trust, and I promise that one day you'll wake up feeling more accomplished, completed, and whole. One day you'll proudly share your idea, your invention with the world too. Or you'll choose not to because approval of others will no longer matter.

What matters the most, there'll be no more internal demons to fight, no more painful detours to make and the whole future will look a whole lot better.

🌹 But it starts now with letting go off the idea of having it all this instant. Do your part and Universe will do its part. Because everything happening around you is happening for you. 🌹

With love and faith,

Kristina

5 True-Hearted Signs You Finally A Grown Up

You will get hurt. Shattered- guaranteed. 

For starters, I thought growing up sucks. 

Because you crawl through the world like a newly born kitten with your eyes half closed lacking clarity, direction or often common sense, all while pretending you've got stuff figured out. 

There are times you'll walk through the darkest alleys. But there's almost always a light on the other side. Because even the darkest hour of your life will only last an hour.

 As a standard life in our twenties feels as though we have problems that we are incapable of ever solving. Doors will not always open. Roadmaps will not be given. 

And for the most of us out there, it takes twists and turns and often detours to arrive someplace meaningful. 

But no matter how hard battles you have to fight, you always get through. Universal truth. 

You'll travel far from where you've been, and you'll feel this in your bones... the feeling of arrival. 
 
The idea of next, next, next - always next will longer seem relevant. 

Because...

Time has this magical ability to turn things around and show you what's up. Things will start falling into place and here's how:

1. You become a grown up when You start choosing yourself.

Is when you no longer allow others to make choices for you or instead of you. You take on full responsibility for everything related to you - your love life, work life, finances, career, well being, health, intentions, and goals. 

You acknowledge your value.

You no longer clap like the happiest seal at the zoo when someone throws you a bone. 

No thanks. 
You demand a whole juicy steak. (And it better come with a side and a heart-attack introducing dessert.)

You learn to turn down things that drain your energy, please others and put your dreams on hold. Because destiny is not matter of luck; it's a matter of choice. Anything and anybody that delays you from your dreams has to go. 

Choosing yourself is a difficult one, but I promise, is one of the most top-level choices you'll ever make.

2. You are enough all by yourself when you become a grown up.

 You worked on yourself. Healed your own heart. Discovered who you are alone and what your goals are. 

 Riding solo may seem lonely at first, but how on Earth are you planning to arrive anywhere without being able to ride on your own?

3. You stopped apologizing for your past as A Grown Up.

You dropped guilt about everything and everybody that you wronged in the past. Or how you should have done things 360 degrees different. 

Only when you become capable of unlearning what you knew from the past, you become free of it. The story of who you are and who you aren't. What you can or cannot do. 
 

4. Opinions of others no longer bother you. 

You don't have to blaze through the wall and prove your points as long as everyone gets it.

 Everyone is entitled to have their own beliefs and therefore their own opinions. Be it your colleague at work, your boss or your own family. We may relate to some and completely disagree with others. 

And that's Okay.

Organically you'll start to feel at peace with yourself and those around you. You'll no longer be trying to recast the molecules of others. You'll learn to accept the differences despite the fact that you won't always be on the same page. 

 We can all still come from different places possessing contrasting beliefs, and live happily ever after under one roof without going to wars with each other. 

5. When you have defined your values and priorities.

You know what is important to you and you know why. You no longer find it difficult to make a list of things that are most important to you. 

 As time goes by, your values change. The descending order change. Maybe freedom is replaced by love. Maybe an adventure is replaced by safety. Perhaps some priorities have lost the crown to be nominated to your list.

 And that's all right. 

As we grow, we evolve, and I believe, no human being should ever remain the same. I don't want ever to think I have arrived because this would mean I would stop growing. And as long as I live, I will always be evolving. 

The truth is – you will only feel grown up when you’ve dipped your toes and the entire body in everything you once wanted, and you have made tons of mistakes that made you a better person today.

Until then you should try yourself in every possible aspect of life. Do whatever causes a revolution in your heart. Live unapologetically. Follow your curiosity. Trust your heart. Be a geyser of energy. 

And as you do that, have faith in the world. It always has your back, even in the moments when nothing makes sense. Always remember: there's always light on the other end. We all get there...sooner or later. 

Until then, happy learning!